Grief is like a boat ride on a wild river – intense feelings and strong emotions come in waves affecting all your senses; changing the way you think and feel, combining the inner pain with short periods of relief. It can last for weeks and months or even years; the time frame is simply not applicable and differs from one person to another. The important step that a person who grieves for a lost loved one, or because of other significant emotional strike in his or hers life caused by a personal trauma, must do is to accept their feelings, express them in a way that will help them to cope with the grief and share sadness and difficulties with those close to them, family members, friends and everyone who can give them support and care. Grief support can come in many ways, but these seven are the most common and important for everyone in case of a need.
If you keep your feelings for yourself or try to ignore the pain, you can significantly increase the time you need to heal. Never be afraid to cry, to express your loss in words and connect with your friends and family in difficult times. It is perfectly normal that you feel sadness, numbness, anger, fear or even guilt, even though you deep down know that there wasn’t anything you can do to change what happened. Loneliness can sometimes help you during your grieving process, but you have to accept that only the presence of people you love and respect, their comfort and closeness can truly help you to move on.
HOLD ON TO YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Family members and close friends will always care for you; they are great listeners, they will acknowledge your pain, share their thoughts and feelings with you and be available to offer their empathy and understanding. Sometimes they will just sit with you in silence, because they don’t want you to feel discomfort or fear during your grief. Let them be your support and cherish the memory of your lost loved one with people who feel the same as you and have sympathy for your pain.
FAITH CAN GIVE YOU PEACE
Different rituals and ceremonies are important parts of every religion, and your cultural background and traditions can become a significant support in times of mourning. Memorial services are bonding rituals with the purpose to gather all people in a grief who share the same loss and sadness. Spirituality can offer you a relief through praying or meditation, and going to church can be very powerful effort to regain balance in your life and find the inner peace.
Every loss is unique and the amount of pain can be measured differently, but essentially we all have to face grief in some point in life and we can recognize others who experienced the same feelings during difficult times. Support groups can be a very meaningful and profound way to connect with others and share your emotions in protective environment. Talking about your feelings, sharing life stories and exchanging sympathy and understanding with members of the group can be very fulfilling and liberating. You can find these groups in your area, contact counseling centers or search them online.
Creating a memorial page on social networks can be a great way to celebrate the life of a loved one who passed away. Collecting pictures, videos, personal texts and reaching to others for support has become more present in online communities. That way you can inform the public that an important person was taken away from you and this tribute was meant to honor his/her life. Friends from all over the world can pay the respect to beloved someone, post their condolences and provide certain comfort for those who grieve.
GIVE SUPPORT TO OTHERS
Only person who felt the grief over personal lost can truly understand how difficult can be to heal and move on after continuous sadness and inner pain. Positivity is something that will keep you going, and the right move would be to offer your comfort and warm advice to someone with the same problem. Become a volunteer, take someone who grieves just like you and together try to overcome emotional struggle. It will hurt less if you share your fond memories, provide sympathy and embrace the gifts of life.
CONTACT PROFESSIONALS IF NEEDED
Sometimes, the grief can be so strong and unbearable, that can become dangerous and lead you to depression. Complications can be turned into psychological entropy which can push you to significant emotional damage or cause health problems with complications that could be fatal. If you constantly feel numb, worthless, physically incapable with thoughts of death or even suicide, then you must seek help from mental health professional as soon as possible. In that case grief counselors and professional therapists can give you a treatment and help you get better.
Didacton offers a Grief support course. Please click on the link in case you are interested in learning more about this.